tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8398704131941623332.post6817877837775094655..comments2023-10-04T11:40:12.544-05:00Comments on The Sky is Only Dark Between the Stars: RegretJodie | Velourhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05934490293293685281noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8398704131941623332.post-1403046921379758432009-07-11T17:28:55.375-05:002009-07-11T17:28:55.375-05:00I came over here all ready with a comment, and fin...I came over here all ready with a comment, and find that I cannot say anything more than you all have already said. Love Rachel's view on it. As always, you've given me a lot to think about!Jackie https://www.blogger.com/profile/06689420082726915164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8398704131941623332.post-86137468691816999942009-07-10T14:18:25.447-05:002009-07-10T14:18:25.447-05:00I think some times our human mind is desperate to ...I think some times our human mind is desperate to make "good" out of bad things that have happened, so we go there - to the place that says "Oh, there was a reason, I am better for lessons learned, It's all okay." It's our way of tying up with a pretty bow something that is messy and hard to understand.<br /><br />I do it all the time.<br /><br />And the truth is, you have an amazingly "real" perspective.<br /><br />Sometimes it is just plain ugly. With no explanation. No good to find - other than God's comfort and healing hand.<br /><br />Sometimes it's just regrettable.<br /><br />Because we live in a fallen world - and have free will - and mes up.<br /><br />Your perspectives are very interesting to me. Refreshing.Wendi@EveryDayMiracleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02726898493426028276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8398704131941623332.post-88248100458371296842009-07-10T08:44:18.216-05:002009-07-10T08:44:18.216-05:00You both make excellent points.
Sarah: I complete...You both make excellent points.<br /><br /><b>Sarah</b>: I completely agree with your last statement, about denial. Fo sho.<br /><br /><b>Rachel</b>: Absolutely. I hadn't considered the whole life of regret thing... I was more referring to a single action. I agree -- Regret can absolutely hold you in a life of bondage. <br /><br />As for me, I don't live in bondage to that regret at all -- but I still feel the sting of it, and I wish I'd made a different choice, for the sake of the other person.Jodie | Velourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05934490293293685281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8398704131941623332.post-52613154278099739192009-07-09T21:27:09.204-05:002009-07-09T21:27:09.204-05:00There are definitely things I've done that I w...There are definitely things I've done that I wish I hadn't done (regret!!!). And there are definitely people I've hurt that I wish I hadn't hurt. I've had remorse and sought grace and made amends. The whole process.<br /><br />I think however there is a difference between regretting an action (or actions) versus living in regret. I have a family member who regrets every decision she's made - not "bad" behaviors but where she went to college, what she majored in, who she married, what job she worked, how she raised her kids, etc. etc. etc. Truthfully she's miserable because she's constantly wishing she made difference choices instead of finding joy in the circumstances she has in life.<br /><br />So I guess my feelings on regret are mixed. On the one hand I see how it can lead to repentance and healing. But on the other I see how it can hold a person in bondage as well.<br /><br />I'm sure this didn't help at all. :) Sorry.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8398704131941623332.post-24218798216517630272009-07-09T09:41:28.473-05:002009-07-09T09:41:28.473-05:00Good thoughts! Like you said, regret is different...Good thoughts! Like you said, regret is different than guilt. Guilt keeps us from moving on, regret allows us to learn from our mistakes.<br /><br />My list of regrets is quite long.<br /><br />If one says they have no regrets, it's as if they're saying they didn't really make any huge mistakes because "it all worked out"...I think that's called "denial" ;)Sarah@Life in the Parsonagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03129742817309651806noreply@blogger.com